must i make a new year’s resolution?
Ahhh… New Year’s Eve, 2008. A time to look back at what has been good and bad over the past year, and make decisions about what you want to change in the coming year. Do I have to? It’s not that I’m against resolutions of every type, but New Year’s resolutions stink. If I am anything like the average American (and average does indeed describe much of me), I know that the resolutions that are made on this day, for this coming year, are just not going to happen. When did New Year’s resolutions just turn into wishful thinking?
The word “resolution” is pretty strong. According to Dictionary.com, 3 of the definitions of resolution are:
|2.||a resolve or determination: to make a firm resolution to do something.|
|3.||the act of resolving or determining upon an action or course of action, method, procedure, etc.|
|4.||the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute; firmness of purpose.|
Yikes! Not “wishful thinking” by any stretch of the imagination! I personally like number 4, “the mental state or quality of being resolved or resolute; firmness of purpose.” To be “firm in purpose” is a pretty major thing, but it requires that I have a purpose! It’s hard to be firm in something that I don’t have set in stone! I know I have a purpose, but how many of us, when asked “what’s your purpose in life” would have to stop and think… and then not even be able to voice what our jumbled thoughts were?
The bible study I finished (see: books I would recommend) talked about a purpose statement. I have to confess, when we did that chapter, I never wrote mine. It was too much. I honestly didn’t want to think that much. It’s hard!!! Not only is the thinking and putting onto paper hard, I knew once I did it, it would be there! To have a purpose statement in writing means that I have some degree of responsibility to act/live it out! So, I just didn’t do it. Now, with all of my New Year’s resolution blah-ness, I am realizing that the reason my New Year’s resolutions never work is because they don’t fit with my purpose. No, I haven’t written it out yet, but I know deep, deep inside me that “lose 15 pounds by June” or “grow my hair out” (typical sort of past resolutions) probably isn’t going to fit with my purpose in life!
So, my New Year’s resolution this year is two-fold. First: No New Year’s resolution. Second: write a purpose statement, and live it. My goal is to have my purpose statment finished by January 10th.
So… look for it then, and HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!