My “Things I Don’t Want To Be” List
I have a bloggy friend, who also happens to be a friend “in real life”. We went out to eat last night, just to chat, and catch up. We talked about a lot of things, but, as the conversation usually does, things turned to talk of kids, and babies, and possible future pregnancies.
She and her husband don’t have any children yet…and my opinion on that is great! They have been married about 2 years, and (not that I think everyone has to do everything the way I did it) I think that waiting a couple years before entering the sacred halls of parenthood is a wonderful idea. I’m so glad that we celebrated our 4th anniversary together a few weeks before our first was born.
But I digress…
She mentioned how she’s just not ready yet. Which is fine! She also said that when it happened, she wanted to be truly excited (which, I know she will be regardless of the timeframe, but that’s from my perspective of having been there for a planned baby, and a “surprise” baby). She said that when it happens, she wants to NOT be one of those annoying (annoying is my word here) pregnant women who complain about everything the entire experience. Which, I totally appreciate on two levels. First, I’ve listened to someone complain the whole time… and truly, it is most annoying and frustrating. Second, when I know the heartache of baby-loss and I know others who want a baby so badly, it kills me to hear people whine about the trials of pregnancy. No, no one ever said it was going to be a cake-walk, but if you have a healthy baby growing, please, for the love of all that is good, shut up and enjoy it! Whew. Okay, rant finished.
So then I told her that if/when we have a third baby (which for the faithful few… if we do, will not be for about another 2 years or so), I’ve decided that I don’t want to be the “share your birth story with everyone” mom. Yes, I did play that personality definitely after my first… it’s such a miracle… and after your first your really feel like super-woman, and like no one else has ever done that in the world but you. HOWEVER, after my second, not so much sharing, except if people asked, or if it was a group of friends talking about it. NOW… I’m just tired of it. The birthing process, no matter how you get the baby out, is sacred. It is miraculous. And, if people ask, and really want to know, I’ll tell them about it. But, I just don’t want to be one of those “super sharers” anymore.
Sooooo, all of this to say that after this conversation, we both decided to make a list of things we don’t want to be. I mean, doesn’t everyone have things that they don’t want to be? Courtney suggested that after everything we don’t want to be, we put a Bible verse backing up the validity of why we don’t want to be that. I am going to give it a try.
We haven’t set a date for the list “reveal”… but it won’t be until the next time we get together, and who knows when that will be! It took us 2 months to do this one! 🙂
Anyone out there want to be working on their list? Leave me a comment and let me know what you “don’t want to be”.