“crying it out” stinks
Let’s face it people. Letting a child “cry something out” stinks. It’s one of those pieces of advice that people give if they are either A: far enough past that stage to not remember the awful-ness, or B: completely naive.
My son is 22 months old. He is still very attached to his pacifier, and it was at this age that we started limiting our daughter to “naptime/nighttime” only. Soooo, being a creature of habit, I decided that it was time to limit baby boy to the “naptime/nighttime” rule.
Today was the first day doing that. I kept them busy all morning so that he wouldn’t realize he didn’t have access to it. We went to return a DVD to the library, and get a new one. We went to Home Depot and ran around looking at the plants, and even got some seeds. We went swimming, they played with play-doh, we ate lunch. As is our habit, 30 minutes before naptime we settled in to watch a DVD. This time, it was The Wiggles. I head back to the computer to enter the last bit of a massive Pampered Chef order I have to submit today, and about 5 minutes later, Eli comes in, pulling at my hand. This is his cue for “go get my paci” . So, I said “no” firmly, and gave him his blanket lovie. He proceeded to stuff it in his mouth, and scream for 30 minutes. Yes. The ENTIRE time. You’d think by that point, he’d be exhausted since it was naptime anyway, but no, after I put him in his crib and gave him the pacifier, he wanted out to run around. I told him we could rock, but not play. He didn’t want that either.
What am I supposed to do? It is utterly heartbreaking and frustrating for your child to be so upset! And yet, I know that breaking these habits are just part of the mommy experience, albeit, not my favorite part.
Anyone ever had this problem? I’m desperate for suggestions or ideas. Please, just don’t give me “cry it out”; if we have to continue this method, he won’t be the only one crying… 😦