and then something happens, that makes me feel grateful!
Again, I will re-hash the fact that my three year old is giving up naps. Today I realized that when I was pregnant with our second child, Rachel went from two naps a day, down to one. At that point, I was devastated, because I had become quite used to taking a rest during one of the naps, and getting housework done during the other! It was quite a lovely schedule… ahh…
Now, I’m pregnant again, and she’s dropping a nap again. Only this time, it’s different, because there is no other nap I can fall back on! I have been used to having a defined, “me time” during the afternoon, and it has disappeared. I do have her go to her room to play/read “quietly”, but she hasn’t quite yet figured out what “quiet” is to me, vs. what she perceives it to be! So, while she’s not around me, it’s still not restful, you know? I was struck by the fact that this is how it’s going to be, and I really need to figure out how to make that time restful for both of us, but also make it a time that can be special “mommy/Rachel” time too. Haven’t gotten that far.
Anyways, the reason for the title is because today, I really wanted a short little naplet. Not long, just a power nap. But, it didn’t happen. I was grouching to myself (not aloud, but in my head) about the unfairness of it all, and I read my sister’s post about her daughter.
My niece is adopted. She was the child of a mother that was a substance abuser during her pregnancy, especially alcohol. As a result, Gabi has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. Contrary to its name, this effects a person their entire lives, not just as babies. One of the symptoms is an out-of-whack circadian rhythm. Gabi’s body doesn’t adjust to the normal sleep/wake cycles like we all are accustomed to. This results in very erratic sleep patterns. This particular day, she woke up at 5:30am, laid down for a nap, but only slept 45 minutes before awakening again. She’s the same age as Rachel. This is not a normal amount of sleep for a three year old! Even though her body can’t figure out when to sleep/wake… she still feels the affect of the deprivation, leading to grumpiness, whining, and all of the other usual lack-of-sleep behaviors that people have.
So, it made me grateful. Grateful that even though I think three is awfully young to drop naps, at least I know that Rachel will go to bed between 8-8:30 every night, and sleep until 7-7:30ish the next day.
The bottom line was that I was thinking selfishly. I wanted my “me” time, and that’s not what leading a Christ-like life is about.